Talking with girl online?

I think I've probably strayed down a bad path here but I just wanted to ask this. I have been having this crush on this girl in a few of my college classes but havn't had the nerve to go up and talk to her. Now, lately I heard the teacher say her first name in class when handing something out. So I took that name and googled it and found a last name on my college's website matching her first name. It was the only person listed with that first name so I just copied the whole name and thought I'd investigate. Then I took that whole name and ran it through myspace, nothing. So, I ran it through another popular social netoworking site xanga and I thought I found her. I then took her AIM name and googled it and found other pages with some pics and info and I'm pretty sure it's her. I feel like **** now that I think she has a boyfriend from reading a few things and patching things together. Now, I added her AIM to my buddylist. I think I'm probably being outright creepy because it's not like I just casually stumbled on a page of hers and said to myself, "Hey, I think I know her." No, I deliberately went through several steps of trial-and-error to learn about her and attain her AIM. So, now I don't know if I should talk to her, a complete stranger, through AIM because she'll find it stalkerish that I was able to find her fairly hidden pages behind her back and plus I think she's got a boyfriend.

-Any advice on my situation

Talking with girl online?

ha ha

Talking with girl online?

Stalking people is fun, but you can't let them know you're doing it! If you can find something she's interested in, you can casually bring it up if you get the guts to talk to her. At least then you'd know something she'd be comfortable with discussing.

Talking with girl online?

don't talk to her unless you really want to

Talking with girl online?

Talk to her in class first. THEN make an xanga and talk to her and be like "Hey I just found this. :) Whats up?" and THEN go to AIM. :)

Talking with girl online?

talk to her tell her you go to the same school talk to her bout class if she has a boyfriend then respect it and just be her friend

Talking with girl online?

thats pretty stalkish, and didnt you just say she had a boyfriend?

i think you should forget it and try just saying hi to a girl the next time you like one.

Talking with girl online?

Dude, just say hi, start a convo and see where love takes you... Worste comes to worste you dont go out with her.. but go for it.

Talking with girl online?

Thats not really "stalker" behavior. If she told you to leave her alone and don't contact her anymore but you STILL called followed her ect. thats a stalker. You found information in order to meet some one you are attracted to. I have seen men and women do stranger things to meet. One girl I knew dumped a full diet coke on a guy just to meet him.

Talking with girl online?

Hey guy, you sound like an all right dude, so I going to give it to you straight.

Since you seem to have made a successful search for her I would suggest that your first contact be a request if you can keep her as a friend on AIM. If she says yes, that might be a beginning for friendly chat. If she says no, be a man and just leave her alone. You know all chats don't have to be on a personal level. The world has a lot of things going on in it and I am sure a young smart guy like you can think of some to chat about with a young smart girl.

Talking with girl online?

Hhhhmmm....... sounds supeuses. Well the least you can do is be friends. Do y'all comunitce? If not, just forget about her. Or try to talk to her and find out the difference of what she say's and what you found. If you menniten some things from what you found and she starts acting weird, yeah she's a stranger. Good luck on this quest.

Talking with girl online?

Hey wow ok i dont think u should im her make a silly xcuse in college to talk to her. Because ur right u cant just casually stumbled on a page of hers and say, "Hey, I think I know her. it is pretty creepy. So yea in college drop ur books by her or something to make her notice u i no it sounds childish but hey it works sometimes.

Talking with girl online?

Haha, I've actually done that before, just pretend that you just found her page. Find an excuse like you were looking through random stuff and you thought you recognized her and decided to talk to her. For me the guy was pretty cool with it, and we started talking a lot and eventually we traded numbers and we talk so much. I've never told him though, and he's starting to ask questions, but I just let him think it was just coincidence. He trusts me enough to believe me.

Point is, you never know until you try. If she rejects you, w/e you said it yourself, you just had a crush on her. Not like you were majorly in love with her. It doesn't seem like you have a lot to lose, considering she might have a boyfriend.

Talking with girl online?

Wow! thats a hard one. well all I got to say is have a good one.

Talking with girl online?

lol, I did that once, and found that the girl who I thought was my age was only 19 (I'm 25). Glad to have discovered that she was too young for me before anything could actually happen.

...anyhow, in your case, I always advocate for honesty. Sooo, if she asks about how you got her info, tell her the truth...or come right out and say "well, I just spent a night internet stalking/ researching you and figured it'd be way easier to just ask you about yourself, so I added you to my buddy list".

When you admit the truth, it never seems quite as bad as it does when you're thinking it's best to keep things a secret.

The only reason you feel bad is because you think what you've done is shameful. The only way to get past that is to accept what you've done, forgive yourself for it, and be honest about it if you ever need to be. If you don't do that, you'll just be afraid of dealing with it, and when you're forced to, you'll seem foolish.

-Rob

Talking with girl online?

Whatever college you go to must have extremely low standards...

"I have been having this..." WTF? And you're in college... Nice one. Just the fact that you made it into college, shows how rubbish college is these days... You make my degree seem worthless.

Seems like you did a lot of work to track this girl...

Have you managed to find her phone number and address?

Pretty pathetic... Do you honestly think ANY girl would even be the slightest bit interested in someone that did even half the crap you say you did?

I say go for it. She'll just reject you, but you have it coming.

My advice for you is: Grow a set. You're in college now, show an ounce of maturity...

Oh, and STOP BEING SUCH A FREAK!

Hope my advice helps.

Talking with girl online?

Well for starters don't ever do this again dude a girl doesn't like it when people are staking her.It's just weird. Now thats over wit just go up to her and just introduce yourself and don't go and tell her that you have the same classes. for now don't AIM her pretend that you don't know her. now once you know her and she knows you don't keep on walking her or getting to close just keep it simple wit a hi or hey and walk away. this keeps her guessing . if shes patching things with her boyfriend their was a problem this means tha t you have a chance. also keep it simple don't follow her and don't give her presents. once she comfortable around you just tease fool around a little and when you feel ready ask her out and don't keep on asking her to go out. also be incharge on were your going on the date.