What to say to a girl you just met??

Well ive seen this girl in school like 3 times.. i have never talked to her in person.. only thru myspace and text msgs.. she thinks im cute and i think shes SUPER hot, so we made plans to go out to a movie, umm not what do i say to her when im there, what kind of things should i say.. what kind of conversation should i start.. i dont see how we could possibly talk to eachother much if we dnt know eachother %26gt;.%26lt; so someone help.. i want to seem like im a very entertaining person to be with, not only for this girl.. for any girl in general.. what kind of things do i say.. not just a compliment.. like what can we talk about?

What to say to a girl you just met??

What you are asking is really hard to answer (especially in a short space) because it is * T H E * fundamental dilemma of getting to know each other. You don't know each other well enough (yet) to know WHAT she is interested in talking about. But if you don't start somewhere, you never will get to know her better. Catch 22. This is THE big problem with meeting someone new.

There is some truth to the "be yourself" advice. You must relax and be yourself in order to open up and let your juices flow. If you freeze up, no matter what game plan you are following can't work. You have to be relaxed and calm and confident in order to be you.

Secondly, the # 1 thing she will enjoy and like about you is your personality. If you are wearing a mask, so to speak, you are putting a wall between you and her. You are depriving her of the #1 thing she would like about you... who you are, your personality. She will want to feel that you are being real, letting her in, letting her get close to you. So "be yourself" is important for all of these reasons.

But it is NOT enough to just "be yourself" as in "don't bother to be prepared."

The situation you are in is the classic situation that is a tough situation. You can't go in their naked and unarmed.

Even with women that I have dated often, and gotten along with great (even if I have slept with them), I try to have maybe 5 tidbits of conversation prepared, and in the back of my mind. I heard a crazy bit of news on the radio. I heard a new joke. I did some research on the net about something that she is interested in (if you know). I have a funny story (or just a story) about work, or my brother, or my dog, or the squirrel next door, or whatever. I decided to start looking for a new car, and I am thinking about really cool-looking cars. (She won't care about technical details, but she will get into how cars look on the outside and whether they are cool or not.)

I mentally prepare some "cards" to play. Now, don't go in there and feel programmed. If the conversation is going great, I don't use any of my pre-planned topics. Maybe I won't use any of them on that particular date. A SPONTANEOUS CONVERSATION ALWAYS BEATS whatever I may have planned. Always go with the spontaneous conversation as the best thing. But when the conversation drags, or there is an awkward silence, I can relax, feel calm, and feel confident, because I know I can pull out my story "You wouldn't believe what my neighbor did last week....." And I play that card.

And of course knowing that I have some back-up, I am much more relaxed and calm and confident... and I probably won't even need them because I can spark a conversation from scratch.

NEXT.... Because you don't know each other, and don't know what to talk about that interests her, you will probably have to carry the day by simply entertaining her with some general stuff REGARDLESS of what she is interested in. Don't be afraid to just give something like a comedian's "monologue." You may just have to carry the conversation with some stories and jokes and what you think about Oprah Winfrey or Britney Spears, and just carry her along for the ride. Eventually she will open up and you will start to find out more about her, and then you can latch on to her as an individual.

NEXT.... why do you say "not just a compliment?" Never underestimate the power of a compliment.... especially if you really mean it (she can tell) and especially if it is detailed, not vague. For example, 10 compliments during the course of the evening like "I love those shoes" is better than a vague "You look cool."

NEXT... Ask a lot of questions... BUT try to make them more interesting, more creative, not dead-end questions, and certainly not like the Spanish Inquisition.

For example, "What was your best vacation ever?" or "Have you ever had one vacation you liked the most?" and then just keep inviting her to tell you more, such as "What happened that you liked the most?" If you could try to plan the perfect trip or vacation, what would you do?

The reason for this type of question is that you imultaneously (a) learn more about her which you can then use to steer the conversation to the types of things that she likes, (b) get her to talk about something pleasant that she will enjoy talking about.

Other examples: "What is your least (most) favorite class? How come?" "What is the LAST job on Earth you would ever want to do? And why? And obvious stuff like trash doesn't count. Like what stuff do you not want to do, personally?"

FINALLY... buy my book and read it. This is why I wrote down 20 years of experience and research. I can't fit 500 pages here.

What to say to a girl you just met??

Don't try too hard to make conversation just be yourself. Ask her questions about herself and let her talk about herself the whole time. Ask her about her typical day/week.

What to say to a girl you just met??

start talking bout skool family! introduce ur self but dont talk all bout ur self r else ull seem self obsobered

What to say to a girl you just met??

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What to say to a girl you just met??

well since u dont know eachother, step 1 is to GET TO KNOW!

lke if ur going to a movie, u can just say thigns like

"yeah i like/dont like these kinds of moives...u?" and ull start talking aredy bout different movies u guys have both see.

if that dead ends, then talk bout other things u guys have in common and also what u DONT have in common.......

lke ur interests....even ur teachers%26gt;u can start that by saying like "i had to ditch my hw for so-and-so to see u....school sux..." or "thank god i finished my hw or i wudnt have had time wtvr..."

if u guys are compatible, then conversation shudnt really be that hard to come up with. if it IS hard, then the relationship is one thats based ONLY on looks and nto on presonality, which in case u dint know is NOT GOOOOD in the long run~!!!!!!!!

What to say to a girl you just met??

first of all, you need to be yourself all the time. you can probably bring up what she looks for in a serious relationship after a little while. if you have never talked to her, like in this situation, maybe you can talk about a new movie thats out or what plans you have over the weekend? think of stuff as you go along. it doesn't have to be all planned out. this girl is probably just as nervous about this as you are, don't worry.

What to say to a girl you just met??

try to check out her myspace profile try to find things common with you. or ask her about food she likes, movies, type of songs. .. try to tell her more about you what u done yesterday or what u have discovered. just be yourself.